Thursday, November 29, 2007

Considerate People, Grateful People

The other morning I had to run by the cleaners so I stayed home longer than normal so I could drive by there on my way to the farm. This put me into more traffic than usual as well as another route.

Soon I encountered some construction that caused the road to be narrowed to one lane somewhere way ahead of me. Traffic in both lanes slows to a stop and go pace. And people coming up from the rear really can't tell what's happening until they get closer to the construction zone.

Most people waited their turn and signaled and then courteously moved over into the open lane and someone would let them in. I was already in the open lane so I let a fellow in a black SUV over in front of me.

Usually if you let someone in like that, you'll get a wave or a mouthed thank you in the mirror or a nod or some kind of acknowledgment. Nothing like that with this fellow though. Then the guy rides the line which for some reason irritated me to no end. It was distracting for one thing.

Soon another car passes me in the closed off lane and comes up alongside the SUV. The guy wasn't trying to cut in or anything but there just wasn't anywhere for him to go. He was trying to get over but he ends up in front of the SUV. I figured the SUV would let the poor guy over. But NO, the SUV driver pulls up so tight the guy cannot get over. He did it deliberately. Now this is the guy that I just let over.

So of course I let the new guy over in front of me. He waves at me and mouths thank you in the mirror! That's like doubly grateful.

That made me wonder.

The first guy wasn't grateful or at least didn't express it and he surely wasn't considerate of the other guy either. The second guy was grateful so I wondered if he would also be considerate.

Didn't have to wait long to find out because pretty soon another car ends up just ahead of the second guy who is now in front of me. And my second guy with no hesitation motions for the new guy to come over which he does.

Gratitude and consideration: I think they go together.

On a more personal note:

I did not meet with the mortgage company yet. I may not be able to qualify for a mortgage. There's a big difference between me personally and our family business interests. The estate will not settle for a very long time. There's also a big difference between me acting on my own behalf and when I was acting on dad's behalf. The mortgage business is under such scrutiny now, too. So I may have to pursue alternatives. And the worst thing that could happen is that we don't get get this house but we still have a roof over our heads.

I bought a new pair of Brooks running shoes yesterday. My old ones had more than 1,000 miles on them. It surely makes a big difference getting a new pair.

Friday I go for my first ever treadmill stress test. My doc thought I should have one since I exercise so much and I've never had one and I'm nearly 60 now. My competitive nature makes me want to do well!! Judy says I am making way too big a deal out of it and that it's basically a nothing kind of thing especially compared to my normal exercise routine. We'll see.


nancy said...

terry, i am sorry about the loan. another example of how AD just sucks. is there a chance judy would better qualify for the loan? it's not as if you don't have the money, it's just not in your name. it must be so frustrating for you. i'm glad you're trying to keep a positive attitude.

good luck with your stress test tomorrow. i'm thinking and praying for you!

Annie said...

I'm sorry you might get screwed over for doing what's right. Thinking of you.

flintysooner said...

I've always had problems getting mortgages so this isn't exactly a shock to me. I've always been either self-employed or owned my own small business.

I always thought it was funny that employees of the various companies I've co-owned could qualify for mortgages but I and the other owners had a difficult time.

But I will work something out on the house I think. I think it's our house.

dave said...

Terry, I often wonder why we are in such a big hurry. There are times when I find myself as inconsiderate as the guy in the Black SUV, and I feel ashamed.
Thanks for reminding us.
Best on your house purchase.

Joanne D. Kiggins said...

I can so relate to your post about drivers. Greatful and considerate ones are far and few between. Good luck with the house purchase and the stress test. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

SKYGIRL said...

Flinty; Worse case scenerio, you and Judy, come live with me! I have a fully furnished guest room, and what I hear, I csme in, just under the wire, for a 30 Year-Fixed-No-Doc-Loan, and it is only $286.56 per Month, so between the three of us, I think we could swing it!

I understand being a bad loan risk, in their eyes, but sometimes, cash is king, or equity rocks! And sometimes, we actually 'do' get lucky.(although, please keep in mind it is "3" degrees out right now!)

It took several years for my Grandmother's Estate to close as well, she didn't have a Trust, but should have.

I've told everyone in Caliornia, they are welcome here, as well, but we would have to get a bigger House! LOL!