Monday, December 17, 2007

Symmetry

I have noticed that there seems to be a certain symmetry to my life. It isn't real symmetry in the mathematical sense.

For instance every three years there seems to be some big event in my life. In 1998 I began caregiving (among other changes). In 2001 my mom died and my dad was diagnosed. In 2004 I married. In 2007 Dad died. It doesn't work perfectly and I can choose other starting dates and different periods of duration. But the three year duration is kind of weird.

Yesterday I was thinking about symmetry in a different way. Back when dad built his house I was about 15 when he started. Our house was so tiny and we had only one bathroom so as soon as the downstairs shower was done I began going over to the new house to shower. Then when the house was done we all moved over together. Only took a few hours to move our few things over there. Now I live out at Judy's but some of my stuff is still over at Dad's house. So I usually go over there and exercise and shower and dress. The symmetry is just interesting to me.

Or that dad and mom took care of me as a child and then I took care of them for a while in their old age.

6 comments:

steflovesnonna said...

I think there is a kind of symmetry in all of our lives. No matter how much we change we always come back around to the same places. I know I do. Take care friend, and know I am always around.(creepy!!)

Joanne D. Kiggins said...

Terry, your posts always manage to make me think even more than I do already. I just wrote about that a while ago. Your last line about your dad and mom taking care of you and you them, made me think of the phrase, coming full circle. I guess when we come right down to it...that's what we're doing. My thoughts are with you as always, my friend.

Lori1955 said...

Interesting post. I keep thinking of the Lion King and the circle of life.

nancy said...

i agree with joanne, your posts always make me ponder and think, which is a good thing.

you know the saying, things always happen in 3's.....

~Betsy said...

I love the part about your parents taking care of you as a child and then you looking after them in their old age. I think they call that paying it forward. I just call it "the way it should be".

Thanks for the thought provoking post Terry. You always give me something good to ponder. I'm glad you're a part of this little blog family!

*(¯`·¸*Chris*¸·´¯)* said...

Again you leave me thinking. I think the only semetry is the fact my brother graduated in 72, I graduated in 82 and my daughter graduated in 02. There may be more but that seems to stay in my mind.

I too love the part about our parents caring for us and then we care for them. My parents were caregivers all their lives. It's really all I have ever known.

Take care my friend.